Octopuses Garden by Ringo Starr

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Comment by Sarah on July 3, 2009 at 6:55am

Well, in this case, since she has rapport with me again, she responded well to my asking to share something with me. Until recently, if I asked her to take any of my needs into account, she would renew her abuse. When I gave the "push back" and told her I need the car sometimes, she was at first very angry. But, I kept at it, texting to her about how cooperation is not the same as control, and that communication and negotiation can make her happy. The next day, she was very ok with it all, even "letting" me sing with her instead of making a nasty comment. We always sang together in the car before she was alienated. The "push back" worked, and I am happy and less worried all the time - about her and about me. My daughter's father lives in a narcissistic "world of one" and I am VERY happy my daughter is returning to the life of friendly give and take, even though there are responsibilities to others. She chose the octopus song. And, then "Something in the Way She Moves".

Comment by FAIR RULINGS on July 3, 2009 at 3:45am

What happens when people "push back"? Don't worry be happy...

Comment by Sarah on July 2, 2009 at 1:02pm

My daughter and I have been fighting this week, because I told her she had to share the car with me. We just got home from a drive together, and she let me sing along with the Beatles music she had on. I let myself get kicked around bigtime keeping contact with my alienated kids. Time to push back.