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Happy Holidays to me
Well for those who are wondering why I suddenly went MIA, here's what's been going on in my life...
Hubby and I have been having problems for several months, which I primarily blame on the fact that my help where his kids were concerned was no longer needed. I spent my days locked up in my own home with no place to go and no way to get there spending god knows how many hours a day helping my husband so he didn't have to keep wasting money on lawyers.
Then just before Christmas I confided in him a secret, that my mother had said she and my stepfather were going to split up and she wanted to make sure I was the first to know, even before my stepfather. I confided this secret to my husband, who then turned around and called my stepfather and told him my mother was having an affair, which wasn't even true.
That combined with everything else finally opened my eyes to the fact that my good nature and heart were being taken advantage of. But he seems to think that I'm a "lousy wife", and considering he did this all around the holidays, we spent our Christmas's apart, which we decided together. Until it happened, then of course in his usual pattern, I was at fault. Kind of like his ex is at fault, I'm at fault, and everyone else but not him.
But all I've done for him since we've been together, and for his children he has decided to pay me back by divorcing me.
So with that being said, you won't see me around much, if at all since i don't have children and have been told I will never see his daughters again. Of course when his ex did that to him it was unfair, but doing it to me is necessary I guess.
Anyway... you all have been great friends, listeners, and supports and I appreciate everything everyone has done to help me and even though he doesn't appreciate it (considering I couldn't even get him to join us here), I wanted to make sure that everyone here knows I did, so THANK YOU and GOD BLESS!!
~Dee~
Macomb County, MI
Hubby and I have been having problems for several months, which I primarily blame on the fact that my help where his kids were concerned was no longer needed. I spent my days locked up in my own home with no place to go and no way to get there spending god knows how many hours a day helping my husband so he didn't have to keep wasting money on lawyers.
Then just before Christmas I confided in him a secret, that my mother had said she and my stepfather were going to split up and she wanted to make sure I was the first to know, even before my stepfather. I confided this secret to my husband, who then turned around and called my stepfather and told him my mother was having an affair, which wasn't even true.
That combined with everything else finally opened my eyes to the fact that my good nature and heart were being taken advantage of. But he seems to think that I'm a "lousy wife", and considering he did this all around the holidays, we spent our Christmas's apart, which we decided together. Until it happened, then of course in his usual pattern, I was at fault. Kind of like his ex is at fault, I'm at fault, and everyone else but not him.
But all I've done for him since we've been together, and for his children he has decided to pay me back by divorcing me.
So with that being said, you won't see me around much, if at all since i don't have children and have been told I will never see his daughters again. Of course when his ex did that to him it was unfair, but doing it to me is necessary I guess.
Anyway... you all have been great friends, listeners, and supports and I appreciate everything everyone has done to help me and even though he doesn't appreciate it (considering I couldn't even get him to join us here), I wanted to make sure that everyone here knows I did, so THANK YOU and GOD BLESS!!
~Dee~
Macomb County, MI
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Comment by Sarah on January 4, 2009 at 7:45pm - This is weird, but the day you posted this I had been thinking about you and how you were so upbeat and what a great contribution you made. Why not let us support you through this as well as going on with the work you started here?
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Comment by Tmac17540 on December 31, 2008 at 12:00pm
- I'm sorry to hear that but I think you should stick with this family and help all the other children and families that what and need your support.
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Comment by FAIR RULINGS on December 31, 2008 at 3:44am - I for one know how you tried to help your husband... This is very sad to me and I don't want to see you go because you have helped others on this site. Hang in there kiddo you're appreciated.
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