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Comment by Ken Dagger on November 6, 2009 at 5:51pm

Two wrongs don’t make a right. At least not how I was raised.

My wrong was refusing a DNA test. Let’s examine why:

I get a message on my phone, out of the clear blue, in 2005. It was from a girl I spent a week with, while living in Texas in the very early 90’s. I returned her call and told her I did remember her, in which she enlightened me that I was the father of her 1st born son. She told me there would be no financial responsibility on my part but she asked if I would take a DNA test so her son would know who his biological father was. She said she had the DNA instructions she could send me. I absolutely agreed & requested only (3) pictures of the boy at different stages of his life, to be sent with them. I received only (1) picture, accompanied with some ridiculous letter she wrote to me. For all I knew, the picture came out of a Wal-Mart picture frame. Oh, there were no forms to take this so called DNA test. When I questioned what took her 12 years to tell me, she stated her & her husband went for a divorce & before he was going to pay child support, he wanted one taken himself along with the children. It just so happened that her first born was not a match with him, so she knew he was mine. I don’t blame the guy for wanting confirmation. I would have done the same thing, but I would not have turned my back on a 12 year old I raised since birth because of the results. I never got an answer as to why she didn’t let me know she was pregnant with the possibility of me being the father. She had more than enough time to let me know, before I moved back to Long Island, NY.

I than started receiving the DNA documents from the Child Services Division of Texas. They were threatening, to say the least. I felt entrapment, so I ignored doing or saying anything. The letters offered no information, just how much money I’ll be paying if proven he was mine. That is unless I hired an Attorney and fly down to Texas for the court hearings. Problem is, I’m not Rockefeller. Legal Aide in New York is of no help, as this is a Texas matter. Legal Aide in Texas is of no help, as I am not a Texas resident.

Texas Child Support Divisions’ wrong was:

The way they approached this situation from the start. I’m sure they can understand my initial defiance, but to not allow me to take a DNA test now, at my own expense, is the second wrong. It’s not just wrong, it is unfathomable to me.

I might seem a little ballistic with my recent comments to Greg Abbott, but I have fully accepted the fact I’m going to jail. I only ask how long for, knowing I will never voluntarily give the State of Texas one penny and to give me 2 months to get my belongings into storage. I would also love to have Abbott hear my voice personally.

kjd/NY

PS: I was told the state can tack on a prior 4 years of support payments from the date of the default judgment, which was May, 2008. A paralegal in Texas looked up my info. & said my judgment date was May, 2007. A type-O perhaps?

Comment by Phillip Bradshaw on November 7, 2008 at 5:05pm

It happened: On November 4th 2008 the Dream became Reality. I vowed that if Obama was elected president, I would stop singing Three Sided Boat, and play America the Beautiful instead. After 47 years of living in America, I finally see evidence of the promise for equality coming to life. healing for the Nations, hope for tomorrow, and now we have the oportunity to bring our greivences to the table, that we may all find relief.

Comment by Leisha on May 22, 2008 at 10:31am

Sorry I was a little slow at getting here. I see that this group is very informative, something I can appreciate. I'm glad I made it !

Leisha- New Hampshire

Comment by countrystyle( James Lapensee ) on May 20, 2008 at 8:40am

Google Tracey A Yokich and give a comment to what a father is(youtube, should be #1). I'm a proud Parent and I'm not going away. ALL of your help is needed.

James Lapensee
Proud Parent
Macomb County, MI 48044

Comment by Theresa Martin on April 24, 2008 at 1:59pm

All UCRCoA Leaders are coordinating ride share information from their State to Washington, D.C. We want every single person who is able and wants to attend this years Family Preservation Festival event to have a way that can be 'do-able' for all. Everyone that wants to attend the 2nd Annual DCRally2008, please communicate with each other per State group.

Let us all plan to not leave people behind this year.

Comment by Minister Ron Smith on April 24, 2008 at 12:17pm

ITS ALL PARENTS!!!!...On some level the courts don't discriminate when they use a child....They are separating mothers, fathers , grandparents, the entire family structure from their children. They use different methods but the goal is the same....WE COME TOGETHER AS PARENTS UNITED...We need the homeschoolers here with us because they are a knock at the front door away from losing their children.

Comment by Sally Hindley on April 24, 2008 at 11:37am

United we stand!!!

Comment by Jim Semerad on April 24, 2008 at 9:43am

Be dedicated to do this for the long haul. The issues are bigger than your own situation.

Comment by Anita on April 24, 2008 at 9:23am

Ron,
It's not just fathers it's also mothers...

Comment by Steven Damron, M.A. on April 24, 2008 at 9:15am

Ron,
I Love what you are doing for Fathers. Keep up the Great work!!! Im with you 100%...

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